My brain was trying to convince me that my body was trying to kill me, but Nic Cage saved me

Image by ariellejay via morguefileLast night, my head starting itching.

The most likely culprit was the number of mosquito bites I had. Walking in the front door means going through the gauntlet of a billion mosquitos that are quite serious about taking blood from anyone who comes near them, and if they don’t manage to do that outside, then they scoot inside and start biting anyone they can find. And they don’t just exist by the door – when I was putting air in my tires yesterday, I got about half a dozen bites while filling a single tire. It’s Texas. I shouldn’t have to say any more than that.

Instead of that, the logical option, my brain decided that I was dying. Because, let’s be honest, what are the other options? (Not including the mosquito one that I had already discarded as wrong.)

How did I know that it wasn’t mosquitos and was instead something that would kill me?

Once upon a time, I had a super shitty doctor who didn’t tell me that people who are allergic to penicillin have a higher chance of being allergic to cephalosporin. He didn’t tell me because he had decided that I might have a psychosomatic reaction. We girls aren’t a hearty bunch, I guess, and he clearly knew better than me, what with being a doctor and all.

He was wrong. So wrong.

I had a total big ass massive reaction that was in no way psychosomatic.

My stomach, back, and head – COVERED in hives. It really, really, really sucked because there’s not much you can do about hives when they’re on your head. I had to wait out the hives, putting Caladryl on every hive that wasn’t under my hair. (When I look back at it, I don’t know why he didn’t tell me to take Benadryl. I think that goes back to the idea that he was a super shitty doctor.)

Anyway, so that’s probably why my brain decided to tell me that my body was trying to kill me. It’s a logical progression to go from hives to death. Or so my brain said.

Knowing that it would make it worse, I avoided hitting WebMD. It would confirm my thoughts, or, even worse, give me more ideas of things that could potentially be killing me. Most likely, it would be cancer. Because WebMD says that everything is a sign of cancer.

I sat on the couch, suffering, noting every little potential urge to itch and every possible impulse to scratch. Each one, I was 100% convinced, was a sign that the hives – the hives I couldn’t actually feel or see – were multiplying at an alarming rate, bringing me nearer and nearer to death.

Then we put on a movie. A Nic Cage movie. A true, quality piece of filmmaking excellence. (Please don’t tell me you believe that.)

It was awful. “211.” The code for robbery, according to the police in the movie, but I always thought that 211 was the number you called for assistance with food, rent, and all that good stuff to find out about community services. (It is.)

The movie didn’t even have a write-up that explained what happened. Instead, it said it was a “Bank heist movie in the vein of “End of Watch” meets “Black Hawk Down”.” (As per IMDB.) It was that level of quality – the level that doesn’t even rate its own description.

It was so horrible, so hard to follow the mostly non-existent plot, so completely stupidly unbelievably filled with so many coincidences that in order to believe it, you’d also have to believe that you have to provide your banking information to get money from a soldier’s widow who has no one else to leave her millions to now that she’s dying of the cancer. (I guess she checked her symptoms on WebMD, too.)

But it was also magic, in its own way. Spending all my time and effort ripping apart the movie and trying to figure out what the purpose was, which wasn’t even clear when it ended with an illogical ending that I won’t share because I don’t want to ruin the movie for you any more than it will ruin itself, but spending all that time and effort took my brain to another place. A place where it didn’t think I was dying. Instead, it was focused on all the aspects of the movie that were dying – the painful dialogue, the unbelievable characters, the nonexistent plot, the missing resolution, the lack of meaningful conflict…well, you get the idea. Let’s say that there weren’t any actual positive aspects, except for the fact that it had Nic Cage.

So, while I admit that my sample is a bit small in that it was only me, I think that there need to be far more studies that look at the efficacy of Nic Cage films in curing anxiety attacks.


Dying of Dysentery on the Oregon Trail, AKA Going to the Mall for Pictures with Santa

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Where we would die – the Oregon Trail

Let’s start with the scope of the day.

I had been on upped medications due to thoughts of suicide and high anxiety. It had been three days of taking the new dosages, and they tended to make me sleepy. (For example, when we went to my son’s Special Olympics bowling tournament, I actually went into the bowling alley’s bar, laid down on the couch, and took a twenty minute nap…the couch was surprisingly comfy.)

My husband was stuck in a meeting in the city.

We had made reservations for this awesome event called “Caring Santa” for my autistic son back on November 2. It was the only way to guarantee we could get in to see him.

And now it was December 6.

The “Caring Santa” was at a mall. A mall about an hour’s drive away. I hadn’t driven that far since I’d been on the higher level of meds in case I got tired.

There was no way I wasn’t going to try to take him.

My neighbor’s daughter (who can drive, even if she’s not wildly fond of highway driving) agreed to come with because, well, it was a mall! And she said she would help and even drive, if absolutely necessary.

So off we went.

We got to the mall a little early, and rather than let my son potentially melt down too much over the wait, and because he had totally fallen asleep in the backseat, I drove in circles around the mall for about 10 minutes, then decided it was close enough.

Plenty of spots in the parking lot since the mall wasn’t even open yet – that’s one of the perks of “Caring Santa.” It happens before the mall is open, and it’s by appointment only. You don’t have to wait in a line, and the mall is much quieter than it would be during normal hours. (If you have a child with special needs, I highly recommend you check and see if there is one in your area you can sign up for next year!)

I noted the “neighborhood” we parked in. The mall is so big that it has neighborhoods. You have to know where you went in to figure out where to go out. It’s massive. It’s huge. It’s awe-inspiring. And it’s very, very easy to get lost and die of dysentery.

The beginning of the trip went great. My son got to see Santa, even if he did freeze up like Ralphie in ‘A Christmas Story’ and nod and agree that he wanted video games (which he never plays). But he loved seeing Santa. Then my neighbor’s daughter grabbed breakfast from the food court while I took my son on the merry go round.

So far, so good.

We went shopping. I bought a few small gifts for people, stocking-stuffer level items, and we looked at a lot of things we couldn’t afford but were pretty.

Then we decided to leave.

And that’s when we started on the Oregon Trail.

I swore we came in at neighborhood six. My teenage companion demanded that was wrong – we did *not* come in there. She didn’t remember it as being where we entered. And I began questioning myself. Maybe I was just so used to coming in through six that I was imaging it.

All I remembered was that we had come in, turned right, saw a huge sign pointing to Santa, and walked to Santa in a few minutes.

Now I couldn’t find that sign at all.

Had they taken it down? Moved it? Perhaps it had caught fire and burned to a crisp while we were in another part of the mall? (It could happen!)

We began walking. We passed neighborhood eight. Then one. Then two. Then three. All of it looked familiar because we had gone past it before when we walked the mall.

The teen insisted that we had come in near Hot Topic because that was the first store she’d gone into. I pointed out that was only because it had been one of the first stores to open, and she’d gone into it while we were waiting for Santa to be ready.

I kept thinking things were familiar, but then we’d get to the exit, and it would look wrong. We must have passed neighborhood six three times. Every time I thought we were finding our exit, we’d come up on Santa again. Since Santa was not at our entrance, we were wrong.

I began freaking out.

We were trapped in the mall.

We’d never get out.

We would die there.

Dysentery would set in.

We’d be found huddled in the food court, or maybe in one of those short little hallways that led to the entrances and exits used by mall workers.

We’d be desiccated corpses.

The mall would be the death of us.

But we pushed on, bravely, I thought.

Apparently, though, my cracks were showing.

My anxiety had gone sky-high, and I was literally freaking out, convinced that we would never find the right exit. We would never find the car. We’d have to go to the police. They would think I was hopped up on drugs, and next thing I’d know, I’d be under arrest for something, and my son and the teenager would be waiting on someone to pick them up while I got processed at some station where I had to pee in public and have someone do a cavity search on me.

I turned to the teen. She had been texting.

“Who are you talking to?”

“Your husband.”

“Wait, what?”

“You’re scaring me.”

I was scaring her.


Scaring her.

“I’m not scaring you,” I told her. “I’m just getting a little anxious is all.”

She raised an eyebrow at me and kept her hand in her phone.

“Look, I told you I was anxious, right? Well, I’m just a little more anxious now because I can’t find our way out, and we’re going to die in the mall.”

Okay, maybe I was scaring her.

“Why don’t we just try every exit?” she suggested.

Bad idea. I knew it was a bad idea. My son was not good with changes in schedule. If we started going out every door, he was going to be very unhappy when we didn’t go to the car and leave. He was tired from all the walking. I was tired from all the walking. And my hip – which flared up with what I’m hoping is not arthritis – hurt like crazy, adding to my anxiety.

But I didn’t know what else to do.

“Sure,” I said.

What else could go wrong?

We went out at neighborhood five. I pressed the panic button on the car, even though the exit didn’t look at all familiar.



“Let’s go back in,” I said.

The teenager’s shoulders’ slumped. “Oh, I thought this was it.”

My son had a minor meltdown. He thought we were leaving, but suddenly we were back in the mall.

“That’s it,” I said. “I swear it’s neighborhood six, so I don’t care what you think, we are bloody well going out at it.”

And we walked to neighborhood six.

I turned in a circle at neighborhood six. There it was, the sign for Santa.

We went down the little hallway, and – shazaam! – the car was out there waiting for us!

I wound up with a very tired son, a very sore hip, and a crying teenager who thought she had hindered more than helped.

On the plus side, we survived the Oregon Trail, and we had cute Santa pictures to show for our travels. On the negative side, I have learned that anxiety at a mall really, really sucks when you don’t know where you’re going.